Who Do You Think You Are?…I Am a Child of God

I am going to be commencing a series of blog posts concerning identity. This is the first installment.

“But to all who believed him and accepted him, he gave the right to become children of God” (John 1:12 NLT).

The key to living an ascended life is understanding our identity in Christ. It is crucial. The enemy works overtime to convince us that we are a ‘nobody’ and our lives do not have any great significance. That is a huge lie! A person who understands who they are in Christ is dangerous to the enemy…

It is one of my greatest passions to see people step into destiny and purpose. We are unable to do this if we don’t first realise who we are. If we are in Christ, then we are children of God. But many of us are experiencing an identity crisis…

In John 1:12, I believe there are three key principles we need to understand in order to step into our identities as children of God.

1. What you believe matters

In the passage above, the word in the Greek for believe is pisteuousin. This means not only to believe but also to entrust. “According to your faith be it unto you” (Matt. 9:29b KJV). What you believe matters. Believing and trusting in our Saviour, Jesus Christ, is more than just a notion passing through our brains. It has to be so ingrained in our psyche and settled deeply in our heart of hearts.

Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God (Rom. 10:17). The noun ‘hearing’ is in the present tense. This implies that hearing is continuous and ongoing. We must keep on hearing the word of God. This helps it settle in our hearts.

When we have the word of God established in our hearts, we have an open and trusting relationship with the Father. We believe in His goodness. Faith in His goodness leads to trust and security. Out of this mindset, actions follow. What you believe affects how you behave. God is not interested in behaviour modification. He is after heart transformation. Transformed hearts transform lives. We are His kids. He wants to bless us more than we want to be blessed. Sometimes we just need to get out of our own way and let God bless us.

Why doesn’t this happen?…

I believe it stems from an inability to take God at His word and trust in His goodness.

“And it is impossible to please God without faith. Anyone who wants to come to him must believe that God exists and that he rewards those who sincerely seek him” (Heb. 11:6 NLT).

God rewards faith, therefore what we believe matters. We cannot step into the full benefits of sons and daughters of God if we don’t trust Him completely.

I recognise that this is easier said than done. However, we must realise this is a process. We grow in our faith and our trust in God. So how do we get to that place? The answers are simple and yet profound. Read His word. Keep a running dialogue with the Holy Spirit every day and bask in His presence. If you want to build a relationship you need to dwell. Don’t be in such a hurry. Invite Him into all the boring details of your life. He loves every aspect of who you are because He made you. Don’t hide anything from Him. He knows it anyway. Trust His goodness. He loves you with an everlasting love. Let that settle deep within your soul.

2. You have power

In the John 1:12 passage, the word for ‘right’ in the Greek is exousian. This word actually means both power and authority. When we believe, we have access to the authority and power to become a child of God. I don’t want you to miss the significance of this point, so let’s just park here for a minute.

This is not a ‘throwaway’ phrase. If we have the power and authority to become God’s children, then that means the devil has no right to take it from us. And yet he does…Why? Because we surrender our authority!

This is significant. When we don’t recognise our identity as a child of God, we are missing out on tremendous power. What is this power? I dare to believe it is the power that all creation is waiting for us to demonstrate.

“The entire universe is standing on tiptoe, yearning to see the unveiling of God’s glorious sons and daughters!” (Rom. 8:19 TPT)

We were created to be everyday superheroes. There is nothing we can’t do when we realise who we are. When the Church finally comes into a full knowledge of who she is, she will turn the world upside down. The “greater works” Jesus promised us we would demonstrate will be here at last (John 14:12)! The manifestation of the sons and daughters of God will change everything. You have the authority to wield tremendous power as a child of God. Do you dare believe it?


(I’m 40, so I’m using the Super Man I grew up with for some visual motivation…)

3. ‘Becoming’ is a process

We are all in process, whether we like it or not. We cannot miss the word ‘become’ in the John 1:12 passage. So if we are ‘becoming’ children of God, what state are we moving from? I believe we are moving from an orphaned mentality. Jesus promised that when He ascended, He would not leave us as orphans (John 14:18). He would send the Holy Spirit. The Spirit Himself testifies that we are God’s children (Rom. 8:16). Many of us have this orphaned mentality, even though we are sons and daughters of God. Why? Because we do not know who we are and what is made available to us in Christ.

How do you know you are functioning from an orphaned mentality? Here are some indicators. It is by no means an exhaustive list, but it should give you a good gauge of the temperature of your heart.

  1. You are competitive and need to be noticed or stand out. You don’t want anyone to know of your limitations. Sons and daughters know who they are. They embrace both their strengths and weaknesses, knowing that God can use them both. “But he answered me, “My grace is always more than enough for you, and my power finds its full expression through your weakness.” So I will celebrate my weaknesses, for when I’m weak I sense more deeply the mighty power of Christ living in me” (2 Cor. 12:9 TPT, emphasis mine).
  2. You isolate yourself often displaying fierce independence. This comes from a sense of abandonment and rejection, whether real or imagined. Sons and daughters welcome interdependence. They understand that we are family and we need each other. No one can go it alone, otherwise the family will suffer the loss of the one.
  3. You have deep-seated fear and insecurity. This could cause you to fiercely protect what you have or be in constant need of approval from others. Sons and daughters know they are safe and secure in the Father’s love. They know that He cares about every intimate detail of their lives. You can buy two sparrows for only a copper coin, yet not even one sparrow falls from its nest without the knowledge of your Father. Aren’t you worth much more to God than many sparrows? So don’t worry. For your Father cares deeply about even the smallest detail of your life” (Matt. 10:29-31 TPT).
  4. You are performance orientated. Due to deep-seated rejection, you feel you have to ‘do’ in order to be approved. You are driven to perform and you feel completely crushed if criticised. This also causes you to be very critical and judgmental of others. Sons and daughters extend grace to people. They are also able to receive correction from leaders well.

Shifting from an orphaned mentality takes time. It requires deep healing, particularly if there are strongholds of fear, insecurity and rejection in your heart and mind. These need to be systematically torn down with the word of God, basking in the love of the Father and possibly some counselling and/or professional help, especially if there are deep-seated traumas. In some cases, deliverance from evil spirits is necessary, especially if there is unrelenting torment.

“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love” (1 John 4:18 NKJV).

We need to be perfected in the Father’s love in order to overcome the orphan mentality. As John 1:12 states, this is a process. Give yourself some time…


As a child of God, you have full access to all that Christ made available through the finished work of the cross. If you are not walking in that freedom, then pray this prayer with me:

Father, in the Name of Jesus, I thank You I am not an orphan. You have adopted me as Your child and I am precious in Your sight. I thank You that I have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear, but the Spirit of adoption so that I can cry out, “Abba, Father; Daddy, Daddy” (Rom. 8:15). Today I commit myself to believe what You say about me and not what the world or others may think of me. Your opinion is the one that matters.

I thank You, that I do not need to work to win Your approval. Likewise, I do not need the approval of others. Father, I ask You to lead me by Your Holy Spirit into all truth according to John 16:13. I thank You this truth is that I am Your child first. I am created to ‘be’ not to ‘do’. I trust You God as You transform me from an orphaned child to an adopted son or daughter. “Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me” (Ps. 51:10 NLT). I repent for thinking less of myself. For thinking I am less than You say I am. Cleanse my heart and mind. Wash me in the blood of Jesus. Remove this iniquity from me. Cleanse my bloodline so that my children and my children’s children may know who they are in You as well.

Lord, I long to step into all the power and authority available to me as a son and daughter of God. Stir in my heart a deep desire to align my thinking and my yearnings with Your desire to see Your kingdom established on this earth. Move mightily through me Holy Spirit, so that I might display the “greater works” Jesus promised the manifested sons and daughters of God would move in. I submit myself to Your grand plan and design. I dare to believe I am who You say I am.

Lord, You have begun a good work in me and I know You will continue it until the day of Christ (Phil. 1:6). HALLELUJAH and amen!

I hope this post helps you step into who you really are.

Be greatly blessed,

Naomi Byers

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